Speaking of interesting, I spent a day at the Esalen Institute in Big Sur. This iconic landmark has been a beacon for learning and healing since the early 60’s and was the birthplace of the human potential movement. Back then, regular folks and dignitaries alike flocked to the humble structures that dotted the bluffs for classes in meditation, bodywork and all sorts of exploration into science and mysticism.
Now, as was then, Esalen Institute is a free-thinking establishment with uninhibited expression. Hot mineral-rich water bubbles up from deep within the mountainside and feeds a series of rock-lined tubs perched directly over the shore. Clothing is optional in the baths (although I saw no one who opted for a swim suit). I wanted desperately to experience Esalen in all its intended glory so I swallowed my inhibitions and jumped on in! After a long soak and some diverse conversation, I topped off my experience with a glorious Esalen-style massage delivered so close to the sea that I could taste the salt lingering in the air (the bathhouse and spa is pictured top right).
After my massage, I blissfully stumbled up the mountain to join the dozens of residents, interns and workshop participants for dinner. It was there I met Sarah; a pleasant woman in her late 40’s who was enrolled in a 5-day workshop on “Painting from the Soul.” She told me that she wanted to help others discover how art could help them be more expressive and “set them free.” Her dream (you know I had to ask!) is to teach art workshops and retreats so she can finally leave her boring 9 to 5 job.
Except no one knew she was there. Not one friend. Nope, not even her family. No one!
Of course I wanted to know why she came to this beautiful place to learn in secret and her answer made me so sad. “Most of my friends can’t afford to do something like this and I didn’t want to make anyone feel bad,” was her reply.
“Wouldn’t they be excited that you were following your dreams?” I asked.
She mumbled something about hurting people’s feelings and from there our conversation drifted off until she excused herself. She looked sad and not at all like someone who was pursuing her passions and dreams!
Please don’t be like Sarah! When you have decided for your dream…when you are ready to pursue your passions…SHOUT IT FROM THE MOUNTAINTOP!
Tell everyone! Yes, that can be scary. There will likely be people who will be jealous of you or simply projecting their own fears onto you. Ignore these “Dream Stealers” and shout even louder!
When your dream is ready, telling others will propel it forward and all kinds of wonderful things will unfold. People will appear to help you on your journey. Opportunities will be presented to you that you hadn’t imagined. Things will become easier. All because you announced your dream to the world.
But what if you’re not ready? What if you’re still working on the details of your dream?
I call this the “Incubation Period.” It’s okay to keep your dream secret while you’re working on the details. Use this time to zero in on the size of your dream and see if it passes the “5-Question Test.”
So when is it time to move out of the incubation period and debut your shiny new dream?
Here are some sure signs that your dream is ready for its big debut:
- You have developed your vision to its fullest expression by imagining how you will feel living this dream in three years
- You have created a passion poster and hung it where you can see it everyday
- You can barely contain your excitement when you think about your dream
- You know in your heart that this dream will help others in some valuable way
- You have worked through your fears and identified people who can support you in a positive way
- You’re not really sure how it’s all going to play out but you have decided to trust in your Higher Power to get you there
So if you are still working on your dream, that’s fine. But don’t spend too much time polishing it. Maybe it’s time to find your voice. Maybe it’s time to stop dreaming in secret. Maybe it’s time…
Okay, until next time, practice sharing your dream with others. In fact, a good place to start is our warm and inviting Facebook group. We’ll see you over there!
P.S. I am hard at work on creating courses that will help you create profits from your passions but I need your help! I’d love to know what you are struggling with right now.
Are you still trying to polish your dream? Do you have your dream figured out but are stuck out of fear? Have you conquered the fear but are in a place of overwhelm because of all the options? Have you started but are not sure which direction to go next?
Your feedback is invaluable to me and greatly appreciated. Just send me an email. Thanks in advance for your time!